The goal of becoming an ideal lover has a tendency to bring up certain stock images: a slender physique, clear eyes, taut skin, a successful business, a confident manner.
These have their advantages, no doubt, but the true virtues of love might lie in a slightly different, slightly less heralded corner.
An ideal lover might be endowed with some of the following.
Firstly, imperfection.
However pleasing accomplishments might be, what truly nurtures love is someone's relationship to their flaws, a basic and calm recognition that they may, somewhat surprisingly, have a great many of them.
They haven't understood everything.
They aren't unfailingly decent.
They do lose focus.
They are prone to jealousy.
They mess up all the time.
