Or are you doing this for likability and status points?

还你这么了讨人喜欢、提升地位？

Not only is likability related to positive life outcomes, but it is also responsible for those outcomes, too.

受人喜爱的程度不仅和积极的人生结果相关，甚至就这些结果的原因。

Clearly, leadership and likability should not be mutually exclusive for women or for men.

显然，领导力和讨人喜欢对女性或男性来说不应相互排斥。

Respect and likability are not the same thing.

尊重和亲和力两码事。

Well, and it's a perfect example, Kelsey, of prioritizing likability over respect.

凯尔西，这一个完美的例子，可爱性置于尊重之上。

In other words, yes, we are in control of our likability.

换句话说，的，我们能够掌控自己的受欢迎程度。

So I think really, in mentally thinking, focus on respect over likability.

所以我认，在心理上思考时，应该注重尊重而非讨人喜欢。

And then basically, on average, there was a clear correlation between likability, trustworthiness, and attractiveness.

因此，基本上，平均而言，喜爱度、可信度与吸引力之间存在着明显的相关性。

And it all came down to one word for me, and you may laugh, likability.

对我而言，这一切归结一个词，你可能会笑，那就“讨人喜欢”。那种老派、纯粹的讨人喜欢。

He did have this, like, this charm and this likability.

他确实有种魅力和讨人喜欢的地方。

Lou has another trait that is more traditionally associated with likability.

卢还有另一个传统上与讨人喜欢相关的特质。

That's why your likability numbers are down.

所以喜欢你的人数在下降。

And you may laugh, likability, plain old good old-fashioned likability, just being a likable person.

你可能会笑，但感度，就那种老派的、单纯的感度，就一个讨人喜欢的人。

Well, I think we know likability when we see it, and genuineness and sincerity.

嗯，我认当我们看到时，就知道什么讨人喜欢、真诚和可信。

So, for example, a part of likability is to be very empathic, right?

所以，例如，讨人喜欢的一部分就要非常有同理心， 对吧？

And forget about likability, ladies, women, if you can.

如果可以的话，女士们，女士们，忘掉讨人喜欢吧。

I just loved what you shared about likability and it makes me wonder, what about vulnerability?

我非常喜欢你分享的关于受欢迎的内容，这让我在想，脆弱性呢？

It was these micro moments of likability.

这些都让人喜欢的小瞬间。

And when I think about likability, sometimes we can overthink this.

而当我思考亲和力时，有时我们可能会过度分析。

But what you can do if you suddenly mimic your date is actually increased empathy, likability, and your attractiveness to your date.

但如果你突然模仿你的约会对象，你所能的实际上增加你的同理心、可爱度和你对约会对象的吸引力。